So let me start off by saying i have what i perceive to be an alright body image (most of the time)this said i come from a family of "Heavy BONED" or as we like to put it in my Fam, **FAT** but i think its politically incorrect to say that nowadays lol..but hey we some fat folk.In a world where Tyra banks is fat, and beyonce is considered larger than average it can be hard to ever really be happy with our weight or anything else physical for that matter and we all have our low moments but most of us get over them and move on till some stick figure twat in TOPSHOP asks u your honest opinion "dose this make me look fat?" all u wanna say is "Go jump off a bridge" cuz quite obviously they are clearly ANOREXIC but you just say no its great on you. sad huh?
well then why not just tell them the truth??...simples they aint tryna hear the truth and it dosen't stop there i mean we've seen proof countless times that celebrity's are to skinny and that it is impossible for normal women to look the way women in magazines do so why continue to hurt oneself?? dose it have to do with where we are from? or who we hang out with? i know you think I'm an individual but its never that black and white unless your talking about race!
Let me get controversial for a second. why is it that white women between the ages of 12 and 25 are the most concerned about their weight and diminishing any curves their body might naturally have? I mean not to say that other races don't care but they don't obsess and those that do either live in white neighborhoods ,have a vast number of white friends,or follow white celebrity's and media over all way to much. i mean look at me I'm not exactly a size 12 if u know what i mean lol and trust i have had moments where i wish i was but starving my self throwing up or dangerous diet and excessive exercise don't even come to mind when i think about my weight. and again I'll say i have my moments the other day for example i decided to chill with my ex he asked me if i was eating well cause it looked like i had gained some weight (even thought i had lost 10 pounds since the last time he saw me but who's counting) for a second i was dieing but i winked and got over it of course I'm African and i like Black men most of which (including my ex) don't care if their woman is slightly over weight many of them prefer plum or as they like to put it thick women just as log as she has a nice ass!, or to be more specific a big sometimes borderline huge sized ass, and in my case my ample badonkadonk could possibly be the reason I'm tipping the scales or it could just well possibly be the family heavy bones lol,
Anyway the point I'm trying to make here is media and Society have messed us up soo much in believing you can only be considered BEAUTIFUL if you are a frail size 4 Nah Uh, and you probably thinking thats dumb right but i bet you half of you reading this dont really like your body image,and you think if only i was this size...and this is Guys included. I mean most of my friends would be like yeah you good but if you was slimmmer....??? I'm LIKE are you SERIOUS....Lol Well I For one Love my Body yessss ALLL of its thickness and all And if a friend, Guy or whatever got a Problem with it Go jump a cliff.. I llove me all oof me my body my weight if i wanna eat a cheese burger in front of a guy i will dammit lol....
IM BIG BLACK AND BEAUTIFULLLLLL....IM A REAL WOMAN!
Tuesday, 27 October 2009
Monday, 26 October 2009
MEN AND WOMEN
Current mood:
good ive heard a few guys say theyre lookin for a main girl. "YEAH RIGHT" was my first thought. but then after listening to what they had to say and all the reasons why they talk to so many girls at once, i guess i can understand. its just their mentality. and when you think about it- even though females arent usually seen as the "player", theres plenty of them around. im not a player, but ive had my share of heartbreaks or whatever youd like to call it. ive even been compared to a Black Widow by a guy, which was just his way of saying i come into a mans life with a purpose- to show him im not like other girls, then when they fall for me i leave em hangin. i wouldnt say that i agree- but its happened before. no i wasnt proud of it, i barely even acknowledged it. sometimes things just arent what you expected them to be- thats all.
females and males are a lot alike, more so then they believe to be. when a group of girls get together, what is usually their topic of conversation? BOYS! and vice versa. the opposite sex has a tendency to feel romance is a game, a sort of competition to see who falls in love first. who can make the other become the weaker sex. a game thats been a part of life for so long. its probably happening to you right now!
i cant necessarily speak for guys, but i can tell you im no idiot. i DO know how the "game" works. trust me- ive been with a few rotten ones myself. first you got the guy that manipulates you into believing youre always the root of the problem. whenever he does something wrong- he blames you for it, tries to "flip the script". tends to bring up the past and name everything possible that supposedly compares to what hes done. he tries to control your every move and threaten you by saying hes leaving if you dont obey his command. then you have the guy that tells you any and everything you want to hear, aka "THE GASSER". he builds you up just to break you down. makes you feel like youre the only girl in his life knowing he has a whole team that could take your place in the blink of an eye (and believe me- theres always someone who wants to take your place. ALWAYS!!!) only reason he keeps you around is because of his ego- for his ability to say he had you once and will ALWAYS have you. there are guys who think any girl theyre with should feel lucky. the kind that dont care whether or not youre in their life or so they make it seem that way- they know there are girls that react to that behavior. the female will apologize for anything even when its not her fault just to make things better. she does whatever he wants because she THINKS hell just let her go, but for the girls that actually matter- that will never happen!
now as for females- i can most deffinitly speak on their behalf. not just because i am one, but because ive been through a lot and i have friends, and just females period that i sit back and watch how they handle their situations. more than anything, a girl just wants to be loved. we have our times when were grimey or play games, but eventually when you become a victim of lonliness- thats when you throw in the towel. the only problem is, just because a girl might be ready to lock it down, doesnt mean the first guy you fall for feels the same. AND every time you feel a connection with a guy it doesnt mean youre in love. saying those three words will only result in two things- pushing him away or keeping him close. depending on your relationship, youd have to figure out that one on your own, but dont just say it thinking it will make them stick around. there are guys that will have you thinking youre still "that girl" and have other girls on the side. then you feel obligated to get mad or upset with him just because you told him you loved him. if its one thing you dont do- its set yourself up for heartbreak. IF you do, its bound to happen again. just be sure to learn from your mistakes.
most girls are attracted to the guys that arent good for them. they have everything she looks for in a signifigant other, but she fails to realize they dont qualify for the job- meaning in the long run- he wont be "THE ONE". then there are girls who go for the gold- the guy who EVERY chick wants, knowing that with that type of love comes trouble. but do they care? of course not. at least not until they fall hard and expect the feelings to be mutual. then there are the girls who never let go. the ones that stand by your side no matter what! theres absoloutly nothing wrong with that- but to some guys that just doesnt matter. they say they appreciate it, but if you know youre giving you all- your everything- and they still dont seem to get the point... thats a sign that you need to let it go. you cant wait around forever for something that might never happen. its a waste of your valuable time that you could be spending on someone who really cares about you.
as for me- im not perfect. i have my flaws, ive done my share of dirt. everyone makes mistakes right? ive misjudged my feelings, fell for a few players, and been somewhat mischievous. yes- DENNISE KAMBALAME has done all that. no that doesnt mean ive cheated. ive never took part in that, im as loyal as they come if im committed to someone. ive only been in 3 actual relationships- . the first was the worst! did everything in the book you could imagine. did i stay with him after i found out the first time? yes, and after the next time and the time after that. it took me up until i found someone else that treated me better to leave him alone. the second relationship was damn near perfect. only thing that went wrong was i was starting to grow up- he was used to spending all his time with me, then i became unavailable to him. he didnt like that so we broke up. got back together after a week and then i ended it with him because we just were too different. the third was mostly like my first, but it was all a lie to begin with. i could never be proud of that relationship no matter what good times we shared.
even though those relationships lasted as long as they did- i dont consider that LOVE. there is no time limit that factors love. if its real, it can happen within a matter of seconds. theres more to it than just the time and work you put in.
ANYWAY- when i do have the chance to love someone, even though it can be hard, i try my best to give 100%. a guy may not believe i love him, but just because i dont love him the way he wants me to, doesnt mean i dont love him with all my heart. when youve been fooled by love before its harder and harder every time to accept. and even with that- like i said before.. im not the type to look at material things. i love you for how you make me feel when im with you. you become apart of everything i believe in. ill stand by your side through good times and bad. ill give you that smile you need when youre down.. even if i am the reason youre mad- you wont be for long because youll know how good it feels to be loved by me and the thought of that will make you happy all over again. i just need a chance. i promise with this love a guy would have no regrets. only thing he has to promise me is that hes ALL MINE! and when that happens, i give you the world in return.
females and males are a lot alike, more so then they believe to be. when a group of girls get together, what is usually their topic of conversation? BOYS! and vice versa. the opposite sex has a tendency to feel romance is a game, a sort of competition to see who falls in love first. who can make the other become the weaker sex. a game thats been a part of life for so long. its probably happening to you right now!
i cant necessarily speak for guys, but i can tell you im no idiot. i DO know how the "game" works. trust me- ive been with a few rotten ones myself. first you got the guy that manipulates you into believing youre always the root of the problem. whenever he does something wrong- he blames you for it, tries to "flip the script". tends to bring up the past and name everything possible that supposedly compares to what hes done. he tries to control your every move and threaten you by saying hes leaving if you dont obey his command. then you have the guy that tells you any and everything you want to hear, aka "THE GASSER". he builds you up just to break you down. makes you feel like youre the only girl in his life knowing he has a whole team that could take your place in the blink of an eye (and believe me- theres always someone who wants to take your place. ALWAYS!!!) only reason he keeps you around is because of his ego- for his ability to say he had you once and will ALWAYS have you. there are guys who think any girl theyre with should feel lucky. the kind that dont care whether or not youre in their life or so they make it seem that way- they know there are girls that react to that behavior. the female will apologize for anything even when its not her fault just to make things better. she does whatever he wants because she THINKS hell just let her go, but for the girls that actually matter- that will never happen!
now as for females- i can most deffinitly speak on their behalf. not just because i am one, but because ive been through a lot and i have friends, and just females period that i sit back and watch how they handle their situations. more than anything, a girl just wants to be loved. we have our times when were grimey or play games, but eventually when you become a victim of lonliness- thats when you throw in the towel. the only problem is, just because a girl might be ready to lock it down, doesnt mean the first guy you fall for feels the same. AND every time you feel a connection with a guy it doesnt mean youre in love. saying those three words will only result in two things- pushing him away or keeping him close. depending on your relationship, youd have to figure out that one on your own, but dont just say it thinking it will make them stick around. there are guys that will have you thinking youre still "that girl" and have other girls on the side. then you feel obligated to get mad or upset with him just because you told him you loved him. if its one thing you dont do- its set yourself up for heartbreak. IF you do, its bound to happen again. just be sure to learn from your mistakes.
most girls are attracted to the guys that arent good for them. they have everything she looks for in a signifigant other, but she fails to realize they dont qualify for the job- meaning in the long run- he wont be "THE ONE". then there are girls who go for the gold- the guy who EVERY chick wants, knowing that with that type of love comes trouble. but do they care? of course not. at least not until they fall hard and expect the feelings to be mutual. then there are the girls who never let go. the ones that stand by your side no matter what! theres absoloutly nothing wrong with that- but to some guys that just doesnt matter. they say they appreciate it, but if you know youre giving you all- your everything- and they still dont seem to get the point... thats a sign that you need to let it go. you cant wait around forever for something that might never happen. its a waste of your valuable time that you could be spending on someone who really cares about you.
as for me- im not perfect. i have my flaws, ive done my share of dirt. everyone makes mistakes right? ive misjudged my feelings, fell for a few players, and been somewhat mischievous. yes- DENNISE KAMBALAME has done all that. no that doesnt mean ive cheated. ive never took part in that, im as loyal as they come if im committed to someone. ive only been in 3 actual relationships- . the first was the worst! did everything in the book you could imagine. did i stay with him after i found out the first time? yes, and after the next time and the time after that. it took me up until i found someone else that treated me better to leave him alone. the second relationship was damn near perfect. only thing that went wrong was i was starting to grow up- he was used to spending all his time with me, then i became unavailable to him. he didnt like that so we broke up. got back together after a week and then i ended it with him because we just were too different. the third was mostly like my first, but it was all a lie to begin with. i could never be proud of that relationship no matter what good times we shared.
even though those relationships lasted as long as they did- i dont consider that LOVE. there is no time limit that factors love. if its real, it can happen within a matter of seconds. theres more to it than just the time and work you put in.
ANYWAY- when i do have the chance to love someone, even though it can be hard, i try my best to give 100%. a guy may not believe i love him, but just because i dont love him the way he wants me to, doesnt mean i dont love him with all my heart. when youve been fooled by love before its harder and harder every time to accept. and even with that- like i said before.. im not the type to look at material things. i love you for how you make me feel when im with you. you become apart of everything i believe in. ill stand by your side through good times and bad. ill give you that smile you need when youre down.. even if i am the reason youre mad- you wont be for long because youll know how good it feels to be loved by me and the thought of that will make you happy all over again. i just need a chance. i promise with this love a guy would have no regrets. only thing he has to promise me is that hes ALL MINE! and when that happens, i give you the world in return.
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