YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Sometimes you may feel like you are alone but God wanted me to tell you are not alone. You can be in an environment with people, and they can entertain you they can talk to you but you can still be around people, in a house full of people and still be lonely. Because there is something in you that is crying out for something that is not there, and you tryna figure out what is it?, When you need somebody to identify with. And you ask yourself how do ‘I deal with loneliness when I’m not alone, how do I deal with the reality that I feel like I’m by myself when I got people.

You have to understand intrinsically that everybody needs what psychologists call an essential person. An essential person who you can be transparent with an essential person who will stay with you in your darkest moments and not judge you and you can trust yourself to be with that essential person...the problem is even after you find that essential person that person is limited. They are limited because they are not always available; they are limited because their power to change a situation is restricted They are limited because sometimes they want to feel for you but they really don’t feel you.

So how then do you deal with loneliness, because loneliness is a reality for so many who have had to deal with rejection, it is a reality after going through separation it is an issue if you have had to deal with incarceration, it hovers you when you had to live through a death it is connected to you when you migrated to a new environment where nobody knows you. It is difficult when you had to go through loneliness and elevation because all of the people you knew were at one level and now God has taken you to another level. Loneliness will show up in failure because after you fail you don’t want to come around and show your face because you are not sure who knows and how they going to judge you and how they going to deal with you, loneliness will even show up when you tryna be disciplined and focused, loneliness will even be there when you tryna be friendly and out- going and you are not your extrovert.

And right now you may be feeling like you were at the edge like you will never be loved or never be valued, you’ll never be appreciated never be celebrated well the devil is a liar God had to give you a season of alone before he could give you a season of elevation. The majority of us whether we are honest or not are gonna have to testify, we know what it’s like to be alone and more than that we know what its like to be lonely, because every person who is alone is not lonely. Because I don’t have anybody doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy my own company, because I don’t have a boyfriend don’t mean I’m desperate just because I ain’t seen nobody in a while don’t mean I wont take the first train leaving if I waited this long my circle of references has gotten smaller so I aint taking any old thing God if you had me wait this long the next thing coming got to step up or step down, but I need you to show me that my season of loneliness is not for frustration. We try to feel the void of loneliness by using things that never fulfil , so when we are lonely we try to use food as a substitution , when we are lonely we will go shopping to make ourselves feel better, when we are lonely we will have sex with anybody even when we know that it’s outside of the covenant because we want to feel affection and want to feel touched and want to feel beautiful, and desired, and want to feel wanted.
I know y’all are super saved but lets be real today you feel lonely and feeling lonely will drive you in the company of people who are not commensurate to your gift, and who are not on the same level of your intelligence who are not at the same path of your spirituality loneliness many times if you are not careful will coheres you to dummy down, that you will in fact limit your intellect so that mediocre people will feel comfortable and will not be intimidated by your creativity and by your mind and by your thought process, can I say that if you have to sacrifice your genius then those people are not your real friends, the people who are really connected to you should be able to handle greatness that is in you and not sunup you when they see you going further but they ought to be excited that there is a gift inside of you and the gift is that they have an opportunity to be connected to somebody great.

have you ever gone to the supermarket hungry? If you ever done this you will notice that you will buy food you don’t like, you will buy food that is not your taste, and you will get home and as you unpacking the bags you are saying to yourself why did I buy all of this when I know I aint gonna eat it when I know I don’t want it and the bottom line is that I was jus hungry. So here is what I’m saying Don’t look for people while you are lonely because if you look for people while you lonely you will start picking people that are not your taste, you’ll start picking people who are not on your level, and you’ll start picking people who don’t measure up to your expectations, and you’ll get that negroe home and you’ll say why did I do this? This is not what I wanted it was only because I was hungry.

Before you can find a person who will meet your need you’ve got to figure out what my needs are, I cannot expect you to meet the needs when I don’t know me so I’ll end up in a perpetual cycle of frustration looking for somebody to complete me when God is telling you, you can’t find your other half because you are not half a person, when God created you he created you whole so how dare you live your life for somebody else to make you whole, God is saying when I made you I made you fearfully and wonderfully made, when I made you I anointed you from the top of your head down to the soles of your feet. Stop chasing after mandem stop being frustrated over some woman, when you understand who you are let them know if you got me, you are blessed and if you walk away from me baby it’s your loss cuz you don’t even know who I am...
.Im just saying cuz i speak from experience!